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Randomly political, seriously long quote from Say Anything. Yea, that pretty much sums it up.

I have some tolerance for Facebook friends who do not share my political views. (Though I must admit, I have de-friended a few people who I knew and then found out were raging conservatives, crazies, etc, because with the advent of the News Feed, I just don’t need that in my life.) And when people post comments that are begging to be debated, I have learned to not comment. My trick: typing a long rebuttal and then not posting it. It’s cleansing, sort of.

But logging on to Facebook this morning, this is what I found:

Question: Given that the inevitable cultural trajectory is in this direction, we are going to have more and more people visiting our churches in the years ahead who have been raised by homosexual parents. How do we as Evangelicals balance holding true to our view of Scripture, while at the same time not sending the message that the love these kids experienced from their parents (which in many cases will be genuine; it’s not as if gays are monsters) was somehow invalid, sinful, perverted etc?

Let me say that this was posted by someone I went to high school with and who is now an Evangelical priest.
But my instant reaction was: why would these children of gay parents ever go to such a church where they know that the “Scripture” thinks their family life is perverse? Maybe they would go if they suddently started to believe that gay marriage is wrong, and that their parents are sinners, but how often does this really happen? It usually takes a trauma or some serious persuasion to turn children so harshly against their parents.
This comment doesn’t bother me so much in what it’s asking, because it is in theory trying to be accepting (though notice nothing is said of the parents being in the church), but what it’s implying – society is going to hell in a hand basket, and so on. There are only a few lines in the Bible that condemn homosexuality, and there is so much else that tells Christians to love their neighbor, and not look down on their fellow man. Frankly I just can’t imagine Jesus preaching about God’s love to the masses and making a point to say “oh hey – when I said ‘don’t cast stones’ I really meant to say that you can judge anyone who doesn’t share your system of beliefs or forces you to confront them.” But maybe that’s why I’m an agnostic.
I think we need to follow the threads of our thinking more, because a simple question like this Facebook comment begins decently, but perpetuates an entire system of hierarchical judgment that leads to discrimination, hatred, violence, and, as recent news has sadly shown, suicide. Which, to me, sounds exactly the opposite of what Jesus is supposed to represent.

Let me premise this entry with single most overwhelming statement being uttered on the interwebs right now: Facebook is Down.

[Does this mean college students all across the globe are now being forced to …gasp… do work? *shutters*]

I got to work this morning and promptly checked my email, only to see that a friend had written something begging a reply on my wall. And as I clicked to write on said post….nothingness. Thoughts flew through my mind, as if I was standing in line to buy something fantastic only to realize that I left my wallet at home.  “But – but,” you say to yourself,  “I wanted it!”

And my life has been thrown into a wacky off-kilter perspective.

It’s strange how something like a website can become so woven into our daily routine that we don’t even pay so much attention to it until it’s gone. It’s like (insert personal example here) the years before I realized I couldn’t eat bread: I hardly ever ate sandwiches but knowing I can’t eat one makes it evil incarnate.

And Facebook knows what it’s doing. If I were them, I would let the website crash ever now and then (DNS Server my ass) just so people appreciate it and realize that they can’t live without updating their statuses every 2 hours. The irony of course, being that an event like this is what most people would write about in their status updates. Genius.

I saw one new-site that said, ” You  could go back to Myspace…yea right.” Seriously. There’s a monopoly in this world and we all live in it. (Except they’re not playing with paper money.)

[Note: Just as I was posting this, Facebook came back online. Damn. There goes my metaphor.]

I think everyone should make it a practice to google themselves once in awhile, just to see what kinds of things turn up. Of course, this would be much more difficult if your name is John Smith. Fortunately, I seem to be the only person with my exact name in cyberspace.

This brings up the bigger issue of how much people can find out about us just by clicking a mouse. Which becomes even more important when these people are employers, or other judgmental folks.  And one should know if their blog about how much they hate corporate America or how wasted they were Saturday night pops up with a simple search.

But what really scares me is if people are checking credit reports, because, honestly, my credit is not so great. I’m putting myself through college and grad school, so what do they expect? Debt is just a detail. But how much weight are employers really putting into these things? In today’s not-so-lovely, ever slimming job market, can someone’s bad credit or student loans really cause them to lose  possible job? It’s a whole new resume-frontier that you can’t fake, and it frankly a bit unjust. A person is not their credit, and if a late payment on a credit card overrides a college degree with highest honors then there is something wrong with this world.

Sometimes I envy those folks who put all their profiles, etc to private and basically stop all speculating; they achieve some kind of internet mystery. Frankly, I don’t really put anything out there that I would never want anyone to see; doesn’t that go against the web’s grain? If you don’t want your friends to see that you’re bashing them on someone’s wall, maybe you shouldn’t do it. Of course, no one wants their boss to know everything – there’s a professional line there.

Now what was my point here? Ok, I’ll be honest, it’s fun to snoop around on other’s people’s profiles sometimes – you all know you do it. So when someone puts a wall up, it’s annoying – maybe even pretentious?

I suppose I’m going to have to join these people soon though; if I’m a college teacher I can’t let my students see my status update that declares how annoying their paper are. Because facebook is no place for honesty, right?